Happy Father’s Day to all you men who have taken on the responsibility of raising your child with all the love and nurture and discipline that a child needs.. even if you’re a divorced father.. put your issues with your ex aside and remember.. your child(ren) need you more now than ever.. if you just can’t get along with your ex.. get a 3rd party to pick up and return your children.. don’t just stop seeing them and then spend the rest of your life blaming your crazy ex as the reason you stopped seeing your children.. they will grow up one day.. they may search you out.. and they will NOT accept that excuse.. do whatever you have to to stay in their lives.. 

Happy Father’s Day to single moms raising their children alone.. you are the best women on the face of the earth.. you have had to make up stories about your ex as to why he doesn’t come see them without making him out to be a monster.. it doesn’t hurt your ex if you say bad things about him.. it hurts your children.. and they grow up thinking there is something terribly wrong with them that their daddy doesn’t love them.. you have to play both parents when it comes to influencing your children with the different things that each parent provides.. you.. among anyone else deserve this Father’s Day respect.. playing the part of two parents is the hardest job in the world.. and to do it without attempting to destroy the other parent.. is a job worthy of a top notch actress.. there are no awards for us.. except the balanced.. and wonderful children we raise.. 

Happy Father’s Day to the fathers who have abandoned their children.. today is the day that you can sit down and make the decision between being the father that your children need and the self centered man you have become.. these little people are your legacy.. if you want them to know stories about your family.. or pass down the language of your youth.. or celebrate the holidays of your family.. then stop worrying about whether or not they’ll accept you.. your children are living each day wishing your would come and see them.. even if they are being raised by a loving and caring mother and even a step father.. they still know you are missing from their lives.. stop making excuses.. stop blaming your ex.. make whatever arrangements you have to see your children.. but damnit .. SEE. YOUR. CHILDREN.. don’t let them grow up thinking their daddy doesn’t love them.. don’t punish them because you couldn’t work things out with your ex.. these are little people who had no option to be born to the two of you.. don’t let them be raised by one.. make the effort.. see your kids.. love them and let them know they are always on your mind.. and that the love you feel for them could never be replaced.. 

Happy Father’s Day to any man who has walked into a situation with a woman who already had a child whose father is absent from their life.. there is no road harder to traverse than living with/marrying a woman who has a child from another man.. first.. you have to man up and decide whether you want to raise another man’s child without animosity.. and if you decide you can do it.. are you *daddy* or are you just *mom’s special friend*.. and will it matter to you? these are hard decisions.. and for any man who has chosen to walk into this situation.. you deserve the biggest Happy Father’s Day.. if you choose to live with this child and treat him or her as your own.. then.. when there are bad times *which will happen*.. you cannot spend even ONE second thinking.. *this is not my kid*.. this child is yours.. to the core of your heart.. and biology aside.. nothing in this world will ever challenge that YOU are the FATHER of this child.. 

Happy Father’s Day to every father, to every single father trying to stay close to his children.. to every single mother raising her children alone.. and to every *step* father who has chosen to love a child that he didn’t create.. 

You are the best of the best..